I have to set the stage for the incidents that transpired this week, though. To do that, I must go back several years. Actually, I must go back to another depressing time in my life, a period of time during my first marriage. It began when I was attending Columbia College in Los Angeles, California. My first wife, Tara, and I were newly-married and were charged with taking care of our newborn baby, Cameron. I won’t go into great detail about that time, but only state that I came under such stress to actually shut down mentally. It was only later that I learned I had been suffering from manic-depression. Tara and I didn’t know anything about that. She figured that my inability to function normally was due to laziness. This led her to treat me harshly, which added to the stress and, consequently, the depression. I was told later on, by a psychiatrist, that there are neurotransmitters in our brain that connect parts. There is a part in our brain which holds desire, and another part which controls acting upon that desire. The stress had shut down the neurotransmitters so the two parts weren’t connecting right. I had the desire to do the things that needed to be done (e.g., go to work daily, attend school, help out around the home, be a good husband, etc.), but I just couldn’t do it. Now, to someone who has never suffered from depression, this all sounds like a copout. To people who handle stress normally, it is sometimes beyond their imagination to think that “taking care of business” is often tough, but never impossible. I testify that it is, indeed, not that way. I know that I wanted to be the best I could be, and had enough desire to do so, but found it physically impossible to carry out that desire. Sadly, that period of time led Tara and I into a freefall that never ended. Eventually, we separated and then divorced. Yes, there were a myriad of other issues that led to the demise of our marriage, but it was like a boulder falling down a cliff by that point. On the way down, there were small bumps here and there that led us to have glimmers of hope, but the overall downhill direction never really changed.

From that point forward, I had had no other experiences with depression. That is, until this past week. It isn’t a hereditary issue, because I was adopted, but it is important to note that most of my family members have also suffered from depression. I state that “it is important” because of the influence it has had upon me throughout the years. They all sought help and got it in the form of medication. Prozac was held in high-esteem in our household for many years as a miracle-drug. It made our very dysfunctional family bearable. Although I never took any medication since the aforementioned period of depression, several of my family members went through a litany of antidepressants of the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) class. As new SSRI’s were accepted by the US Food and Drug Administration (FDA), my family members were directed to try them out by several doctors. I also learned that this swinging from one SSRI to another is a common practice among a lot of people, not just my family members. It seemed that every FDA-approved SSRI was being tried to see if it was better than the last one by a lot of people around me.

Fast forward to my current marriage, a few years ago, and I began to feel that my wife, Shu Mei, suffered from depression. She showed some of the same signs that I had exhibited during my depression, and that my family members had throughout the years. She was irritable, hard to reason with, lackadaisical about fulfilling her responsibilities, and generally a very depressing person. However, her behavior has differed from my past depression in the manner by which she tends to have erratic periods where she is unexplainably gleeful. I believe this is the “mania” part of manic-depression and the reason why I was probably not diagnosed correctly by that psychiatrist all those years ago (i.e., I never had the periods of glee). I determined that it might be in Shu Mei’s best interest to seek help for her seemingly bottomless pits of despair. The problem was that Shu Mei wasn’t raised in the same environment that I was and was adamantly against going to a psychiatrist, let alone taking any medication for something like depression. Shu Mei won’t even take medication for a headache. Psychiatrics is viewed by her family as akin to the paranormal. To them, people who have mental disorders don’t reveal them at all, and probably should be kept hidden away somewhere. Honestly, that is what the current society here in Taiwan is like. In the six and a half years I’ve lived here, I’ve only seen one person with Down syndrome. According to Shu Mei, they hide the mentally challenged, either in their family homes or inside mental institutions. So, she wasn’t going to have any part of going to a psychiatrist.

I decided that our relationship problems were so extensive that I would actually go to a doctor and fake being depressed, in the hope that I could get some medication and show Shu Mei that it isn’t harmful to take. I figured, if one isn’t actually suffering from depression, taking an anti-depressant is like taking a sugar-pill. Nothing happens. I went to a doctor and followed through with my plan. He prescribed Prozac to me, after telling him that it was working for some of my family members, and leaving out the part that I was adopted. I took the drug every day, making sure that Shu Mei witnessed me doing it. I also worked extra-hard on trying to act extra-happy, so Shu Mei would sense that if the meds were helping me, they would help her, too. What I hadn’t accounted for was side effects, though. I began experiencing terrible side-effects, such as insomnia and a buzzing in my head that wouldn’t go away. Of course, when I told this to the doctor, he prescribed sleeping pills and a different SSRI. So, then I was feeling the lingering sleepiness during the day that accompanies taking sleeping pills in the night. In addition to that, my libido hit an all-time low. Shu Mei never knew about that, because our relationship has been the antithesis of intimacy from the beginning. That’s a whole other story that I don’t want to think about at all.  After trying my experiment for a few months, I stopped it due to the bad side effects I was experiencing from the drugs.

Fast forward to a few months ago, and I found myself experiencing another overly-stressful time in my life. The school where I was employed had decided to not renew my contract, after having employed me there for five years. I felt confident that I was doing a stellar job and was even told so on several occasions by the administration. There was never a mention that anything I was doing was the least bit unacceptable. Then, out of nowhere, they told me that my contract wasn’t being renewed and gave me the excuse that I wasn’t encouraging students to speak English. I knew that nothing could be farther from the truth, so it literally floored me that this was happening. True to her nature, Shu Mei initially blamed me for the occurrence. She later semi-recanted her accusations in the form of telling me I should view the happening as something good, rather than bad. (I say “semi-recanted” because Shu Mei is not one to ever apologize for anything she has said or done. Humility is not her forté. In fact, she later reiterated comments that supported her original accusation.) I was feeling a great deal of stress, because we were barely surviving financially. I set out to find employment elsewhere.

I put together a hodgepodge of teaching jobs, consisting of teaching at one highly-acclaimed high school for a couple of days per week, one cram school for a couple of nights per week, and an online tutoring website for a some weeknights. Through the process, the stress was great on me. It was so great that I felt I needed some help. No longer could Shu Mei and I afford going to a therapist once a week, so I went to see a psychiatrist, using the universal healthcare plan that exists here. He put me on an anti-depressant, another SSRI, and prescribed Xanax for anxiety. Of course, there were yet more sleeping pills to accompany the two medications. I returned to see a different doctor a month after, because the prescription needed to be renewed. This doctor asked me a lot of detailed questions that the other doctor didn’t. He decided to put me on another anti-depressant; this one was not an SSRI, called Mirtazapine. This was the beginning of a horrific mental nightmare for me that continues even as I write this post.

I experienced all of the common side effects of Mirtazapine: visual hallucinations, increased appetite, vivid dreams (fantasies and nightmares), drowsiness (more than a sleeping pill), dizziness, headache, and local swelling (sore throat). In addition to that, I had some less-common side effects: difficulty urinating, muscle twitching, flu like symptoms, and major depression. The last side effect I mentioned is “the killer”. I thought I knew what depression was, but I never knew the depths of despair one could feel until I too Mirtazapine. I hate to admit it now, but there was a thought that passed through my head that it might not be a bad thing if anyone who had anything to do with that drug suddenly died. Luckily, thoughts of suicide did not enter my head. However, I can really understand how people would feel suicidal now, even people who believe in an afterlife where problems only get worse upon committing suicide – as I do. It isn’t hard to imagine the relief that one would hope for, using suicide to rid oneself of the utter despair that comes from major depression.

The less-annoying side effects occurred the day after I began taking the drug. I figured the flu-like symptoms were actually due to the flu. I thought it would pass. As the more severe symptoms occurred, nearing the second week on the medication, it was apparent to me that this was not a drug I should be taking. However, by that time it was too late. It had already taken hold of my psyche. This is where it becomes difficult to express my mental state in words. It was more than a falling mood; it was like being sucked into a vacuum.

My conscious alternated between memories of good times in the past to huge problems that were never resolved. The fond memories came sporadically, one-by-one, whereas the regrets hit in huge bunches. At one point, I felt as if all the mistakes of my past were bearing down upon my soul at once. I found it difficult to breath through the tears that were streaming down my face. I thought I was going to die. I honestly felt like I was in hell. What a terrible feeling. As I stated before, it was the worst period in my life, and I’ve had some pretty bad ones for sure.

Yes, times are tough. Yes, I’m working hard and making peanuts (more on that later). And, yes, my relationship with my wife is the worst it has ever been. But it was Mirtazapine that really almost did me in this week. I used Skype to call my parents, to seek their help. They offered words of encouragement, but it was a pebble in an ocean of gloom to me. When Friday arrived, I was completely unable to do anything. Shu Mei has a small class that she teaches downstairs, at the cram school she and her friend Linda run, so she was gone the whole day. Tyley was spending the day with his aunt in Taichung. Luckily, Billy was home and helped me make it through. I told him to please not leave me alone and he said, “Okay, Daddy!” And, he was a boy of his word, for he never left my side the entire day as I struggled desperately to keep my mind “above water” by concentrating on activities with Billy, instead of anything else.

As I write this, I am not out-of-the-woods mentally. It has been five days since I last took Mirtazapine. I also was drinking vast amounts of Coca-Cola to counteract the drowsiness caused by Mirtazapine and the drug before it. I quit drinking Coke along with stopping the drug. The only medication I have taken in the last five days was a sleeping pill last night, because I could sleep otherwise. I hope I can sleep tonight without having to take anything. If I cannot, I will take a Xanax instead of a sleeping pill, as the sleeping pill made me drowsy all day today and Xanax doesn’t do that to me. Of course, I never want to take another anti-depressant, sleeping pill, Xanax, or whatever other drug is prescribed by a psychiatrist as long as I live. I’m not saying that psychiatrists are bad. I’m just saying that I feel I don’t need them, for me personally. I feel, or hope, rather, that I will never need their aid. We never know what the future holds in store for us, though.

Now, let me paint a bit of the picture of my current financial situation, for posterity’s sake. It isn’t a pretty picture, by any means. In a 5-day work week, I have to dedicate 60 hours of my time to work. (Soon, I will also be working on Saturdays, but I’m not sure of the details of that arrangement yet.) Because I’m teaching advanced students and adults now, 36 of those hours are in preparation for the classes. This is because I have to create the curriculum (i.e., there are no textbooks), and 9 of the classes are presented via Microsoft PowerPoint. As anyone who’s worked with PowerPoint knows, it isn’t an easy process. So, I’m not only teaching, but I’m creating the lessons and presenting some of them via PowerPoint. How much money am I making for this 60-hour work week (55 hours plus 5 hours commute time)? NT$13,142. That comes out to NT$52,568 monthly, or $NT238 hourly, depending upon how you want to look at it. In US dollars, that’s $1,645.84 monthly or $7.48 hourly. My home state of Utah has a current average annual income of $55,619. My annual income at this stage, in US dollars, is only $19,750.08, a mere 35.5 percent of the Utah average. Now, that is a very bleak picture. Oh, how I miss the US right now!

The problem remains of how to actually get to the US? Our house will not sell here, because it is in a bad location in the midst of a very down economic period. Consequently, if we did actually get enough money to afford plane tickets (even that’s doubtful, now), we’d have nothing there when we got there. My parents said we could live with them while I tried to find a job and get an apartment, but I think we’d drive them crazy, in their small two-bedroom house. But, it is an option to consider. As the famous quote/saying goes, desperate times call for desperate measures. A thought just struck me: I just know that anyone who I’ve ever hurt in the past happens to be reading this, they’re getting quite a thrill. My life, at 43 years of age, is in the shambles. Worse is the fact that I don’t have any real marketable job skills. What am I going to do when I get to the US? I can’t teach, because I don’t have a teaching degree. I’d probably be starting over somewhere, somehow. It just pains me to no end to realize that I’m in this position, and having these two wonderful boys, Billy (5) and Tyley (3), having to endure it with me. At times, they are a handful (as boys can be), but, honestly, they’re truly the greatest boys a father could ever hope for. They’ve helped me through some rough times and I need to keep my chin up and hope alive for them, so that I can somehow pay them back for bringing some joy into my miserable life.

Well, I’m already two days behind on my work-week. I’ll just do what I can do and let the chips fall where they may. Sadly, whenever there’s a decision to be made, I tend to make the wrong one. I guess that’s just the withdrawal effects of Mirtazapine talking, but it is as true as ever to me. Again, I just thought of anyone who wishes me ill reading this and thinking “Waaaaaa! Your life is sooo bad! Poor you, BB! Now, you’re finally getting what you deserve, you worthless piece of garbage!” If that is truly what he/she/them is/are thinking, at least I made someone happy from reading this.

I understand that everyone is going to have a time or two when they have body odor. However, B.O. shouldn’t be an ongoing thing. It is something that is controllable, if a person does what is necessary. Having stated that, my feelings on the subject, I have to tell you that body odor is a big problem in certain societies, namely the one in which I am living in right now. Here in Taiwan, smelling bad isn’t something that is seen as a bad thing. It simply isn’t necessary to always try and smell good. I chalk this up to a low set of social skills for the Taiwanese people, as social development isn’t a part of their education on any level. Beyond daily showers, nothing is done about squelching body odor problems here.

On a daily basis, I am literally blasted with others’ foul body smells. Because I am a high school teacher here, in a country that doesn’t have showers for after-PE classes; I experience the terrible ordeal of being in a classroom of up to sixty students who reek from B.O. It just isn’t sweat, either. Although, that makes up the vast majority of the bad smells. It is something beyond that. Without trying to be graphic, I must state that part of the horrid smell comes from other body fluids as well.

Again, this is a problem for me – not them. They are perfectly used to being around the foul smells and see no problem with it. They see no reason to change what they’re doing (or not doing) in order to smell better. It is customary for Taiwanese to take showers at night, and then sleep in their beds, sweating until morning (because most of them don’t use air-conditioning). In that manner, they arrive at school in the morning, already beginning to stink. Also, things like deodorants, anti-perspirants, and perfumes are never used. Furthermore, when I spray an air-freshener in my classroom, they complain that it smells bad. Quite the contrary, as they are what smells bad. They’re just too used to their own stenches to realize that the other smells, of vanilla, roses, or jasmine, are actually pleasant.

I hope that behaviors will change here with time. I would like to see a nice-smelling citizenry here in Taiwan. Their neighbors to the north, the Japanese, are very focused on smelling good. It would serve Taiwan well to learn from Japan’s example. A little social education, if implemented correctly, would do wonders here.

The drug is reported to have the effects of a sleep inducer, an inhibition reducer, and an amnesia generator all rolled up into one little pill. I read that guys slip the pills into girls’ drinks at bars and clubs. Then the guys rape the drugged girls. I was unable to find any articles of this actually happening, but didn’t dispute that it had gone on as there are a lot of lunatics out there. Why someone would actually prey upon an unconscious woman is beyond me. I mean, I always thought rape was violent crime of power and control. What “power and control” does a crazed rapist have over an unconscious victim?

Anyway, I was so frightened by what I read about Rohypnol that I didn’t take the drug. Instead, I endured the insomnia. Luckily, it was a temporary condition and it eventually went away without the aid of medication. I kept the Rohypnol, though. I planned on using it for a future flight to America, to try and sleep on the plane. That way, I could get a jump on jet lag, inducing sleep according to America’s time while en route from here to there.

Last night, I decided to test a Rohypnol, because I had a holiday today and I didn’t know how long the effects of the drug would last. My trip to America is approaching, too. So, I made a plan, to see if the report that amnesia will occur is true. What I did was wrote a little note to myself on my computer, saying the time I took the pill, which was at 9:55 p.m.

Then, I used my MP3 recorder to record myself talking. I talked about everything under the sun. I had read that the drug takes effect within thirty minutes. So, I just kept talking about things. I talked about my feelings about the past, the present, and the future. Being a teacher, I have learned how to lecture for an hour at a time, but this was different. I was really just talking to myself, as the recorder captured my voice. I was afraid that the drug might hit me so hard that I would pass out quickly, so I continued my recording while sitting in bed. I figured that if I passed out, I would at least do it in bed.

One hour passed and I felt no different. Then, another hour passed, and I still didn’t feel any different. Having run out of interesting things to record, I went and surfed the net a bit, catching up on the world news events. This took me about another hour. After that, I went back into the bedroom and listened to Howard Stern on my MP3 player. A little after an hour into his show, I got tired. It wasn’t the kind of tired I feel when I’ve taken a sleeping pill. It was a “it’s 2 o’clock in the morning and this damn pill didn’t do a thing!” kind of tired. So, I turned off the player and went to bed. I slept in until 10:00 a.m.

I have concluded that Rohypnol is bogus, no more effective for anything than a sugar pill. What gets me is that there is this big story about the drug being used as a tool for rapists. That may be true, but it definitely doesn’t have the effect those rapists think it will, which is actually a dangerous thing if you think about it. First, if someone wants to use this drug for the aforementioned perverted uses, then s/he is more apt to follow through with his/her demented plans because s/he believes this drug will have his/her desired results. Second, when s/he sees that the drug didn’t actually work as s/he intended it to, it will make him/her become angry and possibly resort to doing something violent, whereas without the promise of this drug there would have been no devious plans in the first place.

So, why is Rohypnol being touted as having those side effects? I don’t know. But, I do know that government officials who are responsible for getting the information about medications out to the public are far from infallible. My experience with the government’s inaccuracy regarding child support payments is enough to show me they haven’t got a clue. I know, they are two different issues. However, when you’re talking about bureaucracy, they really aren’t. So, how Rohypnol got the misinformation that it has the aforementioned side effects is anyone’s guess. But, I have read that people believe it and, at least in America, it is a club drug selling for a lot of money. I think if you follow the money, you’ll find the answer as to where Rohypnol got its false side effects from, and why Rohypnol is as popular as it is.